Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Wedding Scrapbook

My aunts threw a beautiful bridal shower for me before i got married and one of the things that they did was have everyone that came make a scrapbook page for me. it was full of advice, blessings, recipes, pictures and so much love! i still look back on it a few times a year...sometimes i laugh really hard, sometimes i tear up (not quite cry though) and sometimes i giggle at the photos. there are 2 passages that keep coming back to me this week though. i thought that i would share them with you...so i guess this is an insight post! :) hope you enjoy them!! thanks to Abby and Katie who shared them with me!!

From Abby:
"Happiness in marriage is not something that happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say 'i love you' at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner."

From Katie:
The Box, by Walt Larimore
"Most people get married believing a myth. They believe that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for. They believe the box is full of companionship, sexual fulfillment, intimacy, and friendship. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take something out. There's no love in marriage. Love is in people and people put it in the marriage. There's no romance in marriage. People have to infuse it into their marriages. A couple must learn this art; this form of the habit of giving, the habit of loving, of serving and pleasing. It's up to you as a couple to keep your box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty."

Blessings, ALo

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